Dear Boy That Made Me Feel Like I Wasn't Good Enough,
You know who you are. While you certainly weren't first the boy I dated, and definitely won't be the last, you are the one who left, perhaps, the biggest tear in my heart. When I first met you I was intrigued. You came into work that one summer day and I was taken aback, mostly because I was definitely not expecting someone that attractive to be in my store- especially someone that attractive to be working alongside me for the day. I tried so hard to seem cool and seem like my life was all together- needless to say that was not the case. I wasn't cool, my life wasn't together, and I know it didn't seem that way. However, you didn't make me feel like the awkward, uncool girl I knew I seemed. You made me feel comfortable. That's when I first started crushing on you. That hot day in mid-July when I first met you.
Eventually, I worked up the courage to try talking to you via Facebook. And in case you didn't know, when you first messaged me back I actually screamed. Out loud. I was so excited and at first I had no idea what to say so I asked you a bunch of questions about yourself which was beneficial because I learned so much about you that I didn't know. I learned about what music you like, I learned what you liked to do for fun, I learned that you were a lot like me and I liked that. Eventually, I got your phone number and I was ecstatic, until I realized I was leaving for school in couple of weeks and it didn't make sense to try and make my big move. So I left home with my crush hidden deep inside my heart and in the back of my mind.
As the school year wore on, you would always pop into my mind and I would wonder what your life was like and what you were doing. However, I would try and suppress these thoughts because I knew I was crazy. When I would come home for breaks, I would "casually" stop by your store to see if you were working just so I could see you and say hi. Most of the time you were there and when you weren't I was kind of sad. That's when I realized that this crush probably wasn't going away. And I was right- it didn't go away.
Of course, at the end of the school year I came home and I was so excited. However, at this point I wasn't really excited to see you because I had dated a guy back at school and had just finally gotten over it. I was also more excited to see my parents and my dog and my friends. But of course, old habits die hard. I went into your store one day and there you were. When you saw me you smiled and greeted me and took time out of your work to talk to me about how school was. I was completely shocked, but also excited. You seemed to be genuinely interested in how I was and what I was doing which, of course, reignited my original crush on you.
After this encounter, I went to your store more often to see you. Then, I finally took a leap pf faith and asked you to hang out- as friends- and you said yes. Like wow. And we had so much fun! After that we would hang out once or twice a week until eventually you asked me on a date. Let me tell you, it was the best first date that I have ever been on and it probably always will be. I really don't think anyone can top that.
Then we started dating, for lack of a better term. We went on dates but we weren't in an official relationship I guess. We had the "where is this going talk" and concluded that we both liked each other a lot but you didn't want to have a relationship because of the distance which makes sense and makes me even more of an idiot. We agreed to date through the summer before parting ways amicably and it was a great idea for a few weeks. But of course, it didn't work. A few weeks later you broke it off with me because you "liked me too much," and "thought it would be best for both of us to end it now." I was heartbroken for the rest of the summer. When I moved back for school I was finally getting over you when I found out you were dating another girl. A girl who, by your standards, was long distance. In fact, the same girl you would constantly snapchat and text while we would be hanging out and be on dates. After learning this, I was ten times more heartbroken than before. And the worst part was- I still liked you. I slowly started getting over you. I unfollowed you on social media so I didn't see you, I threw myself into my studies and work, and then you found another way back into my life. You started liking my stuff on social media again. When I started getting the notifications, my heart ached but then I came to some realizations.
Despite all of the pain you caused me, I wanted to thank you. I know. That sounds weird, but then again, I'm a pretty quirky girl. I wanted to thank you because you made me realize what kind of a person I am and what kind of a person I want to be. I'm not mad at you for obviously not liking me. I'm not mad at you for lying to me by telling me you do. I'm not even mad at you for possibly cheating me even though that would make you the third guy to do that to me. I wanted to thank you for making me feel like I'm not good enough because it made me realize that I am good enough. I good enough for you, I'm good enough for all of my exes, and better yet, I'm good enough for my Mr. Right- whoever he may be and wherever he is. You made me realize that I have so many insecurities and not much self-confidence because I felt the need to seek validation from you that I was good enough. But I'm done with that. I'm more confident now, I'm less insecure (even though I still have some insecurities because who doesn't?), and I'm 100% determined to be good enough, if not, better than enough. So one last time, thank you for making me feel like I wasn't good enough because without that, I wouldn't have realized that I AM GOOD ENOUGH.